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Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World

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The gay male world today is characterized by seductive beauty, artful creativity, flamboyant sexuality, and, encouragingly, unprecedented acceptability in society. Yet despite the progress of the recent past, gay men still find themselves asking, "Are we really better off?" The inevitable byproduct of growing up gay in a straight world continues to be the internalization of shame, a shame gay men may strive to obscure with a fa?ade of beauty, creativity, or material success. Drawing on contemporary psychological research, the author's own journey to be free of anger and of shame, as well as the stories of many of his friends and clients, The Velvet Rage outlines the three distinct stages to emotional well-being for gay men. Offering profoundly beneficial strategies to stop the insidious cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behavior, The Velvet Rage is an empowering book that will influence the public discourse on gay culture, and positively change the lives of gay men who read it.

Vindication of Love: Reclaiming Romance for the 21st Century

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Wanting Sex Again

Wanting Sex Again

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"I never want to have sex again."

If you feel like sex just isn't worth the effort, you're not alone. Forty million American women are frustrated by their lack of sexual passion. They know something's missing--and their husbands know it, too--but the emotional, physical, and mental obstacles to healthy desire can be a knot that seems too tangled to unravel.

Drawing on twenty years of clinical experience, Laurie Watson shows that it really is possible to restore the thrill of sex, using proven psychological methods and personal accounts from actual therapy sessions. Her strategies will:

-Offer a glimpse into the reality of other people's bedrooms
-Address the sexual problems that can develop with life changes--from marriage to motherhood to menopause
-Uncover the hidden factors that impact desire--stress, cultural messages, emotional connection, chemical and hormonal challenges, physical appearance issues, and more
-Show how joyful, meaningful, satisfying sex can be yours again

Candid, practical, and much needed, this book can help you rediscover your sexual self or discover it for the first time. Instead of dreading bedtime, you can look forward to it again.

We Love Each Other, But . . .

We Love Each Other, But . . .

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We Love Each Other, But...offers simple, practical tips that will help you restore and strengthen a relationship that has gone off track. It lays out the nuts and bolts of building relationships so they continue to be gratifying over the long haul. Dr. Ellen Wachtel shows how, even when you feel like giving up on a relationship or marriage, you can recapture why you fell in love in the first place. Dr. Wachtel promises that there is more and suggests simple ways to keep vitality in relationships. In fact, she shows you and your partner how you can stay interested in each other for the rest of your lives.

What French Women Know About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind

What French Women Know About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind

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The Los Angeles Times bestseller! A Gallic prescription for living a life that is richer, more sensual, messier, and a lot more fun (Boston Globe)

It's not the shoes, the scarves, or the lipstick that gives French women their allure. It's this: French women don't give a damn. They don't expect men to understand them. They don't care about being liked or being like everyone else. They accept the passage of time, celebrate the immediacy of pleasure, embrace ambiguity and imperfection, and prefer having a life to making a living.

In What French Women Know, Debra Ollivier goes beyond stale ooh- la-la stereotypes, challenging ingrained notions about sex, love, marriage, motherhood, and everything in between. With savvy, provocative thinking from French mistresses and maidens alike, Ollivier presents a refreshing counterpoint to the tired love dogma of our times, and offers realistic, liberating alternatives from the land that knows how to love.

What French Women Know: About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind

What French Women Know: About Love, Sex, and Other Matters of the Heart and Mind

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A primer on the ineffable, je ne sais quoi appeal of the French woman.
I t's not the shoes, the scarves, or the lipstick that gives French women their allure. It's this: French women don?t give a damn. They don?t expect men to understand them. They don?t care about being liked or being like everyone else. They generally reject notions of packaged beauty. They accept the passage of time, celebrate the immediacy of pleasure, like to break rules, embrace ambiguity and imperfection, and prefer having a life to making a living. They are, in other words, completely unlike us.
Ollivier goes beyond familiar ooh-la-la stereotypes about French women, challenging cherished notions about sex, love, dating, marriage, motherhood, raising children, body politics, seduction, and flirtation. Less a how-to and more a how-not-to, "What French Women Know" offers a refreshing counterpoint to the stale love dogma of our times. Peppered with anecdotes from its Franco-American author and filled with provocative ideas from French sexperts, mistresses and maidens alike, it debunks longstanding myths, presenting savvy new thinking from an old sexy culture and more realistic, life-affirming alternatives from the land that knows how to love.
What Was I Thinking

What Was I Thinking

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The stories you are about to read are true. Often hilarious and always relatable, they all describe the moment when good sense and simple self-respect triumph over the human need to be loved--or, at least, the need to be with a particular man. The relationship may not last beyond lunch, or it may linger for weeks, months, or even years. But inside, you know: it's over.

"What Was I Thinking?58 Bad Boyfriend Stories "includes contributions from:

  • Francesca Lia Block
  • Bonnie Bruckheimer
  • Cindy Chupack
  • Kate Coe
  • Melinda Culea
  • Carrie Fisher
  • Wendy Hammers
  • Nicole Hollander
  • Maira Kalman
  • Lisa Napoli
  • Lynn Snowden Picket
  • Mimi Pond
  • Rachel Resnick
  • Penny Stallings
  • Laurie Winer
  • Amy Wruble

    Whether the story is funny, sad, poignant, sweet, or just plain psychotic--we bet you can't read just one.

  • When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault

    When Men Behave Badly: The Hidden Roots of Sexual Deception, Harassment, and Assault

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    "An exceptional book" (Helen Fisher) by a leading evolutionary psychologist and sex researcher that lays out a new theory of sexual conflict, exposing the roots of the dangerous dynamics that underpin men's predatory behavior -- and what can be done to address it.

    Sexual conflict permeates ancient religions, from injunctions about thy neighbor's wife to the permissible rape of infidels. It is etched in written laws that dictate who can and cannot have sex with whom. Its manifestations shape our sexual morality, evoking approving accolades or contemptuous condemnation. It produces sexual double standards that flourish even in the most sexually egalitarian cultures on earth. And although every person alive struggles with sexual conflict, most of us see only the tip of the iceberg: dating deception, a politician's unsavory sexual grab, the slow crumbling of a once-happy marriage, a romantic breakup that turns nasty.

    When Men Behave Badly shows that this "battle of the sexes" is deeper and far more pervasive than anyone has recognized, revealing the hidden roots of sexual conflict--roots that originated over deep evolutionary time--which define the sexual psychology we currently carry around in our 3.5-pound brains. Providing novel insights into our minds and behaviors, When Men Behave Badly presents a unifying new theory of sexual conflict, and offers practical advice for men and women seeking to avoid it.

    Why Do Fools Fall in Love: Realist's Guide to Romance

    Why Do Fools Fall in Love: Realist's Guide to Romance

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    Falling in love is a complicated, messy, mad endeavor--and staying in love is even worse. But while bitter experience and brutal statistics may tell us that it will probably all end in tears, we still continue to believe in and pursue romance, even if it means losing sleep, friends, or our sanity in the process. In this nimble and original exploration of love's hidden motivations and manifestations, Anouchka Grose tries to get to the heart of its hold over us. This straight-talking, sympathetic book sifts through the combined wisdom of philosophers and poets, scientists and shrinks to offer some serious solutions to the conundrum of love. Guiding us from the first flirtatious text message to dodging insults in divorce court, through swooning, stalking, and swearing undying devotion, this cheerful book about the horrors of love is essential reading for anyone who has ever loved and lost. And then loved all over again.
    Why Does He Do That?

    Why Does He Do That?

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    In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft--a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men--uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.

    He says he loves you. So...why does he do that?



    You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men--and change your life. In Why Does He Do That? you will learn about:

    - The early warning signs of abuse
    - The nature of abusive thinking
    - Myths about abusers
    - Ten abusive personality types
    - The role of drugs and alcohol
    - What you can fix, and what you can't
    - And how to get out of an abusive relationship safely

    "This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Women who are armed with the insights found in these pages will be on the road to recovering control of their lives."--Jay G. Silverman, Ph.D., Director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health

    Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and

    Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and

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    The phenomenal #1 bestselling author who revolutionized our understanding of male-female relations returns to the territory he intimately knows to help couples get past stress and find the loving relationship they want

    Once upon a time, Venusians and Martians functioned in separate worlds. But today they each struggle in the same hectic, career-oriented environment. Exhausted by the time they get home, he's eager to tune out and relax, while she wants to share the events of her day. The result: anger and resentment as Venus and Mars collide. In this positive, practical guide, John Gray explains the different ways men and women are affected by stress, demonstrates how each approach their problems, and offers a clear, easy-to-understand program to bridge the gap and help them achieve a loving, nurturing relationship.

    Why Men Love Bitches

    Why Men Love Bitches

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    Discover why men are attracted to strong, independent women with this straight-forward, accessible dating guide from New York Times bestselling author Sherry Argov.

    Do you feel like you are too nice? Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches delivers a unique perspective as to why men are attracted to a strong woman who stands up for herself. With saucy detail on every page, this no-nonsense guide reveals why a strong woman is much more desirable than a "yes woman" who routinely sacrifices herself. The author provides compelling answers to the tough questions women often ask:

    -Why are men so romantic in the beginning and why do they change?
    -Why do men take nice girls for granted?
    -Why does a man respect a woman when she stands up for herself?

    Full of advice, hilarious real-life relationship scenarios, "she says/he thinks" tables, and the author's unique "Attraction Principles," Why Men Love Bitches gives you bottom-line answers. It helps you know who you are, stand your ground, and relate to men on a whole new level. Once you've discovered the feisty attitude men find so magnetic, you'll not only increase the romantic chemistry--you'​ll gain your man's love and respect with far less effort.

    Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivations from Adventure to Revenge

    Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivations from Adventure to Revenge

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    An unparalleled exploration of the mysteries underlying women's sexuality that rivals the culture-shifting Kinsey Report, from two of America's leading research psychologists

    Do women have sex simply to reproduce or display their affection? When University of Texas at Austin clinical psychologist Cindy M. Meston and evolutionary psychologist David M. Buss joined forces to investigate the underlying sexual motivations of women, what they found astonished them.

    Through the voices of real women, Meston and Buss reveal the motivations that guide women's sexual decisions and explain the deep-seated psychology and biology that often unwittingly drive women's desires--sometimes in pursuit of health or pleasure, or sometimes for darker, disturbing reasons that a woman may not fully recognize. Drawing on more than a thousand intensive interviews conducted solely for the book, as well as their pioneering research on physiological response and evolutionary emotions, Why Women Have Sex uncovers an amazingly complex and nuanced portrait of female sexuality. They delve into the use of sex as a defensive tactic against a mate's infidelity (protection), as a ploy to boost self-confidence (status), as a barter for gifts or household chores (resource acquisition), or as a cure for a migraine headache (medication).

    "Why Women Have Sex" stands as the richest and deepest psychological understanding of female sexuality yet achieved and promises to inform every woman's (and her partner's) awareness of her relationship to sex and her sexuality.

    Why Youre Not Married Yet

    Why Youre Not Married Yet

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    If you're looking to get married and you're not, there's most likely a very good reason: you. Not that you're a bad person--you're certainly not! It's just that you haven't yet become the woman you need to be in order to have the partnership you want. So how you can grow into someone who is ready to say "I do" and to attract the same in a mate?
    You start with this book.
    Based on her wildly popular Huffington Post article--one of the site's most-viewed of all time--"Why You're Not Married . . . Yet" dishes out straightforward, no-holds-barred practical and proven advice for women hoping to head down the aisle or just have a great relationship. With sisterly insight, razor-sharp wit, and refreshing candor, McMillan points out the things that might be in your blind spot: unhelpful attitudes, behaviors, and beliefs so easy to identify in others, much more difficult to see in yourself. Then she shows you how to adjust them to get the relationship you deserve. Like a no-nonsense but loving best friend, McMillan meets you right where you are to help you get where you're going--with clarity and honesty. And she'll make you laugh out loud along the way. More than just a relationship manual, "Why You're Not Married . . . Yet" will help you diagnose what's preventing you from getting what you want. Do any of these chapter headings sound familiar?
    - You're a Bitch: How defensiveness and anger can hide behind a tough, take-charge exterior, and why being nice is never a sign of weakness.
    - You're a Liar: How to stop lying to men--and get honest with yourself--about the kind of relationship you really want. It's the only way.
    - You're Shallow: Being a woman who insists on a tall guy is no different from being a man who demands big boobs. Learn why you should let go of trying to get what you "think" you should have and focus on getting what you "need."
    - You're Selfish: The big secret about marriage: It's about "giving" something, not "getting" it. The other big secret: You will have to go first.
    "Why You're Not Married . . . Yet" isn't so much about getting a husband as it is about shifting your perspective on being a wife. Here's a funny, insightful guide to becoming a more loving woman and creating a more loving marriage--even if you're already partnered. It's a book that will change your life and the way you think about relationships, and it may very well lead you down the aisle.
    Wisdom of Love

    Wisdom of Love

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    What is the antidote to romantic love that all too often exhausts itself over night? This work suggests love can be a reflection of our spiritual being. It states that by the time we are living together something beyond passion is required something intentional and conscious is needed.
    You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married

    You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married

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    A timely collection of brutally candid break-up stories resulting from three years of interviews by an Oscar-nominated documentary filmmaker, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) began as an oral history about the failures of an age-old institution and evolved into a practical marriage guide as racy and romantic as it is revelatory.

    Fast approaching the age when bachelors go from seeming curious to seeming weird, Oscar-nominated documentarian Dana Adam Shapiro set out across the country with a tape recorder in search of modern answers to an age-old question:

    Why does love die--and what can we do to prevent it from happening?

    It all began as a self-help journey in the purest sense. A serial monogamist for more than two decades, Shapiro had just ended his fifth three-year relationship and wanted to know why the honeymoon phase never lasted until the actual honeymoon. Believing that you learn more from failure than from success, he spent the next four years interviewing hundreds of divorced people, living vicariously through the romantic tragedies of others, hoping to become so fluent in the errors of Eros that he would be able to avoid them in his own love life.

    The result is a timely treasure trove of marital wisdom--a provocative look inside the hearts, minds, beds, and e-mails of regular people who'd thought they found "The One" and lived to tell the tales of what went wrong. Shockingly intimate, universally relevant, and profoundly personal, this is a page-turning, voyeuristic peek into the private lives of our friends and neighbors that is as racy as it is revelatory. But ultimately, You Can Be Right (or You Can Be Married) is a hopeful investigation of modern love and a practical guide for any couple looking to beat the roulette-level odds of actually staying together forever.

    You Just Don't Understand

    You Just Don't Understand

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    From the author of New York Times bestseller You're Wearing That? this bestselling classic work draws upon groundbreaking research by an acclaimed sociolinguist to show that women and men live in different worlds, made of different words.

    Women and men live in different worlds...made of different words.

    Spending nearly four years on the New York Times bestseller list, including eight months at number one, You Just Don't Understand is a true cultural and intellectual phenomenon. This is the book that brought gender differences in ways of speaking to the forefront of public awareness. With a rare combination of scientific insight and delightful, humorous writing, Tannen shows why women and men can walk away from the same conversation with completely different impressions of what was said.

    Studded with lively and entertaining examples of real conversations, this book gives you the tools to understand what went wrong -- and to find a common language in which to strengthen relationships at work and at home. A classic in the field of interpersonal relations, this book will change forever the way you approach conversations.

    You Were Always Mom's Favorite! Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives

    You Were Always Mom's Favorite! Sisters in Conversation Throughout Their Lives

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    NEW YORK TIMES BESTELLER

    Conversations between sisters reveal a deep and constant tug between two dynamics--an impulse toward closeness and an impulse toward competition. It takes just a word from your sister to start you laughing, or to summon up a past you both share. But it also takes just a word to send you into an emotional tailspin. For many women, a sister is both a devoted friend and a fierce rival.

    Wise and witty, You Were Always Mom's Favorite! will leave you with a profound new understanding of the unique and precious sister bond, as well as provide practical advice that will open up communication, dispel tensions, and make a vital connection even stronger, deeper, and more resilient.